Published: 2012-07-04 16:01

[updated: 2012-Jul-21 10:10:45]

Use your words

John Green often advocates confused teenagers to, "Use your words". I think that I can see why he advocates this but there are a few problems.

  1. Clarity.

    I often find that I'm not 100% sure of what I'm thinking, let alone how to phrase it, until I saying it out loud or writing it down. This is a terrible place from which to start. While I'm trying to divine someone else's attraction to me.

  2. The shield of ambiguity or, "Would you like to come up and see my etchings?"

    The fear of ridicule and rejection really hurts, (and ridicule and rejection also hurt.)  Being able to hide behind deniability is the most productive path that I know, (the less productive one is hiding in my room writing terrible poetry - which nobody wants!)

  3. People and emotions are scary irrational and scary.

As you can see, each point can exacerbate the others and to highlight point (1.) I'm going back to my room to vogonise the world a little more.